The world definitely talks about sex a lot. We talk about it through the rising problems of pornography, marketing, consumerism, and how it impacts young and older adults. Some people are open to the idea of discussing sex while others view it a difficult subject.
As Christians, we focus our attention on premarital sex and abortion. However, as Christians do we ever just talk about sex and what the Bible has to say about it? If we ponder this question we realize that the Bible places a huge emphasis on sex. Why is it so important? There aren’t many things that God tells a Christian husband and wife to do all the time. God does tell us that if you are married, you should be having sex, regularly. Dont beleive me? Take a look for yourself.
Did you look? Did you notice the only reason given for not having sex? I’ve heard of a lot of excuses for avoiding sex, but none of them had to do with prayer and fasting.
Sex is, by God’s design, a very powerful emotional, physical, and spiritual force of bonding. While that power is extremely destructive when used the wrong way, it is a great source of good when lovingly exercised within marriage.
I’ve found that Christian messages often focus on playing “defense” in its teaching on sex. The emphasis is placed on trying to keep kids pure and husbands away from pornography. Defense is important, but you never achieve victory without also having an offensive strategy. The Bible is filled with encouragement for married couples to learn how to play both offense and defense in their sexual relationship.
Building healthy intimacy in marriage takes work and usually means overcoming some significant barriers. However, the beauty of God is that He is greater than every barrier. There is no sin too great for Him to bring forgiveness, no wound too great for Him to heal, and no conversation so delicate that His wisdom cannot speak into it.
In my blog, I have discussed a wide range of issues except this one. I bring it up because, as a minister, I have been getting questions about sex. Can I have sex before marriage? What if I am in love? How can I know intimacy can be achieved once married if I don’t have sex before hand? Do you have sex? So, in the coming days I will bring forward some observations I have about sex and what God means.
To start off, how are you and your spouse doing in the application of I Corinthians 7:3-6? Taking it a step further, how many of you married couples out there pray with your spouse about your sex life? My guess, not many. That can change. If you are both willing, pray together and explore this part of your marriage together through a spiritual lens.