I think just about everyone has an opinion about sex. We are told about the birds and the bees from our parents or Sunday school teacher. Then we are taught in high school from our health teachers and when we get married, we go through the closed door ritual of fathers and mothers telling us what it takes to please their spouse. We are given opinions from church leaders, the media, and scholars.
When it comes to sex, even classical Christian leaders have had differing opinions on the topic. St. Augustine, “nothing is so much to be shunned as sexual relations.” Peter Lombard, “the Holy Spirit leaves the room when a married couple has sex, even if they do it without passion.” John Piper, “a married couple gives a severe blow to the head of that ancient serpent when they aim to give as much sexual satisfaction to each other as possible.”
No wonder Christians are confused. Who speaks for God? What is the opinion of God? Unfortunately, many Christians have confused the many opinions I’ve listed above for the opinion of God. Ultimately, God speaks for Himself through His inspired Word. If you want to know God’s opinion, look no further than the Bible, our owners manual. It may surprise you that the Bible has quite a bit to say on the topic.
When God has an opinion, we call it something else – the truth. Truth is the one opinion against which every other opinion is measured.
We all have thoughts and beliefs about sex. A lot of it is based on what we are taught and the collective experiences of the human race. What are the primary sources that formed your opinion on sex?
“The ultimate reason (not the only reason) why we are sexual is to make God more deeply knowable,” claims John Piper from Sex and the Supremacy of Christ.
What do you think of the above quote? God created sex for a lot of reasons – for procreation, for pleasure, for intimate knowing between a husband and wife. However, one of the most important reasons He created sex is to communicate about Himself.
God understands that we are limited creatures – that we have difficulty grasping spiritual truths. All throughout Scripture, God paints physical pictures to explain spiritual truths. In John 15, He used a grapevine to explain what looks like to abide in Christ.
God created sex and the covenant of marriage to be a brilliant metaphor of how deeply He knows us and longs for us to know Him. The Hebrew word for sexual intimacy between a husband and wife in the Old Testament is the word yada, which literally means, “to know deeply or intimately.” Granted, yada is used mostly to describe intimacy with God, it can also be used to describe the intimacy between two lovers.
The Christian marriage is designed to be showcase of this masterpiece and intimacy is a powerful picture of the gospel. Have you ever considered that sexual intimacy in marriage is a way of participating in proclaiming God’s love? If you took that seriously, how would your sex life change?