If I told you that someone was coming to speak at your church on the topic of sexual purity, who would you assume to be the target audience? What if a lecture was being given? Most likely, you would picture the seats filled with teenagers, dragged by their parents most likely, and single adults. The purity movement has been almost exclusively geared toward this audience over the years, espexially teenagers. But guess what? The message of sexual purity also applies to those wearing a wedding band.
Temptations of pornography, lustful thoughts, and other sexual sin don’t disappear on your wedding day. Most men and women will face significant sexual temptation at some point in their lives and marriage. For many, it can be daily struggle.
To make matters more confusing, the church is often silent regarding what sexual purity looks like in marriage focusing mainly on sex for procreation and divorce. There is very little conversation on what sex is to be like during marriage, expectations. So Christians are confused. We are told that married couples are to spice things up to keep the romance alive, just look to popular magazine articles on how to keep the sex life going. Woman can end up feeling unattractive and men feel like failures. Many Christian women have read books like Fifty Shades of Grey and feel it is acceptable because they are married. Some married couples watch pornography together.
What then are we to do? Hebrews 13:4 says, “Marriage should be honored by all and the marriage bed kept pure.” God created sexual intimacy for a husband and wife to find great pleasure and excitement with each other. It is important to grow both in spirit and intimacy. He has given a married couple a lot of freedom in their enjoyment. However, the call to purity – keeping all sexual thoughts and actions between a husband and wife – is always a guideline and priority.
Whether you are single or married, if you have given your life to Christ, every area of yourself needs to be yielded to His Lordship. That includes your sexuality, intimacy, and purity. Husbands and wives wear a different form of purity ring – it’s called a wedding band. It symbolizes the commitment to forsake all others in thought, action and desire.
Have you ever considered that sexual purity applies to married people, too? How is the Lord prompting you to yield your sexuality to His holiness?